Making the Time for Your Relationship

By Susan “Honey” Good

“All men are little boys.” – My mother.

It’s the truth, at any age, all men are little boys. And we still love them. As a young girl, I watched my mother treat my father in a very loving manner. My father always came first. They had a very loving and respectful relationship and my father was not a demanding husband. My mother just knew how to make him happy. She earned my father’s admiration and love and she was adored beyond words.. In return, my mother also taught me how to make a man happy. She said, “Remember Susan, all men are little boys.” They need care, attention, and praise. However, if you take good care of your man, he will revere and love you back.So with that said, now I will add my own advice: a woman makes a relationship or marriage. We are the nurturers, the caretakers, the ones who kiss the boo-boos and make them all better.When I married my husband, more than two decades ago, I knew what would make him emotionally happy. I developed a pattern and was smart enough to know if I followed my plan I would have a great marriage. Shelly and I love each other, like each other and are best friends.As an aside, I know that some will see my advice as old-fashioned. It is. It’s as “old-fashioned” as the idea that marriages can be lasting, that people are not replaceable and yes, that relationships are worth the work.I am proud of my commitment to my Ultimate Concierge. I am glad that I have invested in this relationship. The truth is, relationships are hard work, but I believe that pay off is worthwhile.

My “Old-Fashioned” Advice

Here are a few ways you can show your man that you care:

• Make time and look great for your man.
• Have an early morning cup of tea or coffee together.
• Make him a light breakfast. If you have to leave the house early, set the table for his breakfast and leave a loving note.
• Praise your man.
• Text him or call him during the day just to tell him you love him.
• Always go to bed together. It does not matter if one of you stays up. It is intimate and caring.
• Take up a sport or share a hobby that he likes so you can share time together. I learned how to play golf and ski for my husband.
• Greet him at the door at night looking great. Physical attraction is key to having a loving relationship.
• Be interested in his career and attend all of his functions, both business and charity.
• Let him know by your actions that he is #1 in your life. Put him above everyone and everything.
• Kiss him every day.

You will have to sacrifice sometimes, but relationships are two-sided and require sacrifice from both parties.Trust me, the reward will always be greater than the sacrifice.

Do something good today — tell those you care about that you love them.

Susan “Honey” Good is the founder of HoneyGood.com where this blog originally appeared. The site is a collection of lessons learned, life advice and insights from not only her, but from a fantastic group of contributing writers, each adding their own spice to the recipe. Honey Good.com representing “a family tree of women” — wives, mothers, daughters, granddaughters, mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law, sisters, aunts, cousins and girlfriends — coming together to talk about what makes them tick as well as what they have in common. Honey Good discusses life experiences with wisdom, humor and intellect, enabling all to attain a “Honey Good Style of Life.”