Belief Is Your First Step Toward New Love!

By Laura Lee Carter

All misfortune is but a stepping stone to fortune.

— Henry David Thoreau

Love can be tough when you’re older, divorced and wondering what’s next.  I know. At 49, after a bad divorce, I felt relatively certain my “love life” was over. What changed then? I lost my job and career a few years after my divorce…

What to do? What to do? I decided to try something completely different. I started my own dating service! I figured I needed a job AND a date.

There I spent some serious time learning from hundreds of 40+ singles about what it feels like to know that you are far too young to give up on love, and yet fearful that you may be too disillusioned to ever try again. What I discovered is that there are quite a few of us who have lost our faith in love, and that included me!

So I got busy changing my mind.  With my natural stubborn streak and extensive background in psychology, I used decades of personal experience with love and disappointment to turn my attitude around.

First I began to finally value my mysterious and yet powerful personal intuitions. I quit interrupting when my heart was trying to tell me something important. Enough “rational” assessments of my situation, what did I want to happen right now?

I also knew I needed to forgive myself for everything in my past, but what was the best way to do that?

Slowly I created a formula that included finding new self-respect for where I was at, appreciating how I got there, and devising various ways to love myself into believing in love again. I began to see how much I feared love, and began searching out those experiences in my past that were keeping me stuck.

My formula included focusing on my own unique shame and trust issues, forgiving myself for past mistakes, listening to my inner wisdom, and utilizing cathartic techniques to change my beliefs about what love might have to offer me now.

My solutions worked for me!  How did I know?  I met the love of my life a few months after I started changing my mind and heart.

Now I hate to watch others suffer because they just don’t believe anymore, so six years after I met my new love Mike, I completed my book: How To Believe In Love Again: Opening to Forgiveness, Trust, and Your Own Inner Wisdom.

Are you ready to acknowledge that you have lost your faith in love? Read my book and then make believing in love your highest priority! It worked for me… it will work for you!

Feel free to contact me for more information or personal counseling at: MidlifeCrisisQueen@gmail.com

Laura Lee Carter, MA Counseling Psychology, the writer behind the popular online blog How to Believe in Love Again, has been helping others turn midlife difficulties into opportunities for personal change since 2007. Besides working as a psychotherapist, Laura Lee has authored a number of books and e-books on midlife transformation.  Don’t miss her new book: Find Your Reason to Be Here: The Search for Meaning in Midlife. Follow her on Twitter: @midlifequeen.