Four Big Relationship Killers

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Men are attracted to the physical first because it is simply in their DNA. However, for a man to have a long-term attraction to a woman it has to be more than physical. Most worthwhile men want to be in a relationship, contrary to what many women think. But they are slower to choose and commit. A quality man is looking for red flags.  He wants to be sure that he is making the right decision for the long term. Here are a few things that men consider dealbreakers:

Insecurity: There’s no greater attraction killer than insecurity. A quality man wants a confident woman who can hold her own in nearly all situations without him having to take care of her constantly.

Being Demanding: The last thing a man wants is a woman blowing up his phone or constantly demanding her needs be met immediately over the other needs and responsibilities he has in his life at that moment.

Drinking too much: This is important, ladies: drunk is ugly. It is usually when a woman’s “crazy” is exposed. Getting trashed is not sexy, it doesn’t make a woman look cool or make her more fun; nor is it excusable the next day.

Wanting commitment too soon: A woman should never assume that because a man is dating her and even having sex with her that she is the one for him. Unless a man is verbally telling a woman he is committed, he is not. The worst thing a woman can do is assume otherwise.

Sherapy Advice: A man will only value a woman as much as she values herself.

Sherrie Campbell, PhD is a veteran, licensed Psychologist with two decades of clinical training and experience providing counseling and psychotherapy services to residents of Yorba Linda, Irvine, Anaheim, Fullerton and Brea, California. Her new book, Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person is available on www.amazon.com and other fine booksellers.