How NOT to believe in Love!

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A survey done by CreditCards.com showing how common financial infidelity is among married couples disturbs me.

This kind of dishonesty makes me wonder why these couples stay married. If they’re anything like a friend of mine, they’re staying in the marriage until they have enough saved up to get out.

I am reminded of my first marriage in my forties. I see now that my husband was always, from the very beginning, assuming that the marriage would not last and wondering how much that would cost him. We kept separate checking accounts from the beginning, which seemed normal to me at the time.

In retrospect, after ten years in a completely different kind of marriage, where honesty is EVERYTHING and everything is shared, I see how my first marriage was doomed from the beginning because it was not based on love and trust.

If you now wonder if your present marriage is based on love and trust, it isn’t.

If you feel you cannot trust your spouse enough to share a checkbook, how can you trust this person with your most precious self?

Laura Lee Carter, MA Counseling Psychology, the writer behind the popular online blog How to Believe in Love Again, has been helping others turn midlife difficulties into opportunities for personal change since 2007. Besides working as a psychotherapist, Laura Lee has authored a number of books and e-books on midlife transformation.  Don’t miss her new book: Find Your Reason to Be Here: The Search for Meaning in Midlife. Follow her on Twitter: @midlifequeen.