Negative Thoughts Are Bad for Your Health By I just discovered a new show on TNT called “Perception”. Have your seen it yet? Very interesting!Last night the main character, a neuroscientist played by Eric McCormack from “Will & Grace”, discussed an essential fact to know about how our brains work. Scientists have shown that when it comes to our brains, what we focus on does GROW!Every time you access a certain memory in your brain, your neurons create more connections to that thought making it ever more accessible the next time.Here’s how that’s important to your mental health when you break up with somebody. Nobody wants to focus on sad thoughts from your past, but it happens. Like in that great song Someone That I Used To Know.“You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness… like resignation to the end, always the end.”How does this work? You seek some sort of resolution to the feelings of abandonment and pain, but by focusing so strongly on rejection, you build up more and more connections to negative thoughts. Not good for your mental health!The best solution? Seek out a good therapist who can help you focus completely on those thoughts until you find a way past your past trauma. Sometimes the solution is Gestalt or some other method that pushes you through the whole experience to the other side with a nice jolt of insight and catharsis.Whatever you do, don’t ruminate on past negative thoughts forever. It’s a nasty trap that can ruin your life, causing you never to believe in love again. Don’t let one bad relationship ruin your life! To learn more about getting past your past, don’t miss my new book: How To Believe In Love Again: Opening to Forgiveness, Trust and Your Own Inner Wisdom.Laura Lee Carter, MA Counseling Psychology, the writer behind the popular online Midlife Crisis Queen, has been helping others turn midlife difficulties into opportunities for personal change since 2007. Besides working as a psychotherapist, Laura Lee has authored a number of books and e-books on midlife transformation. Don’t miss her new bookFind Your Reason to Be Here: The Search for Meaning in Midlife. Follow her on Twitter: @midlifequeenShare this: