The Value of Seeing Other Perspectives

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Just this week I learned something new about myself. I am very stuck in the here and now.

This failure in vision has truly limited my ability to move on to a better life.

I think it has a lot to do with my upbringing. We are very present-minded, cautious people usually erring on the side of fearful instead of faithful.

The way I finally saw the limitations of my way of thinking was by realizing how visionary and courageous my husband can be. Mike has always known that he wanted to dream up and build his own passive solar home with a fantastic view. Ever since he was a youngster he held tight to that dream, number one in his life.

So when he could no longer work at a 40-hour per week job, he found some inexpensive foothills land with fantastic views down here in southern Colorado and started building.

Contrary to all of his certainty and vision, I had my doubts. I knew I wanted to get out of the city. I was certain that I didn’t want to spend anymore of my limited time left here on earth sitting in traffic jams, but could we do exactly what we wanted? It sounded like a stretch to me…

Every time in the past ten months when I expressed my fears about changing so much at once, Mike would simply say he was much happier in this rural setting, and he was certain I would love our new home when it was finished.

Well, he was right. He had the vision and expertise to make this thing happen! Our new home up on a ridge has amazing views of the Spanish Peaks, the Sangre de Cristo Mountains, and Mount Mestas.

MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!

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Laura Lee Carter, MA Counseling Psychology, the writer behind the popular online blog How to Believe in Love Again, has been helping others turn midlife difficulties into opportunities for personal change since 2007. Besides working as a psychotherapist, Laura Lee has authored a number of books and e-books on midlife transformation.  Don’t miss her new book: Find Your Reason to Be Here: The Search for Meaning in Midlife. Follow her on Twitter: @midlifequeen.