How to Love an Angry Man: Part 3 – Help Him by Helping Yourself By blogI’ve been writing about angry men for some time now. That’s because I recognized how destructive anger can be in our relationships, but also how common it is. In my book, Stress Relief for Men: How to Use the Revolutionary Tools of Energy Healing to Live WellI describe the experiences that many people have living with an angry and abusive male:
Focus and Manifestation By blogI learned far too late in life that what I focus on grows! When I start really looking for something I usually find it. Not always in the form that I expected, but these days I can usually manifest what I decide is a priority for me. Why is this? Because focus leads to creativity. Finding the courage to make a solid commitment to any goal, focuses your mind and body. Because you have found a focus, your mind and body will now seek out solutions everywhere. Our minds are amazing that way!
Sundown Syndrome And A Breath of Fresh Air By blogEditor's Note: As many of our readers know, Sundowning (or Sundown Syndrome) sometimes affects people who have Alzheimer's disease and dementia. Rita Altman, VP of Memory Care for Sunrise Senior Living, is an expert and recently put some of her expert tips on how to respond to symptoms of Sundowning to "virtual" paper in the form of a blog. Rita writes that you should, "observe for emotions and behaviors, Look for the unmet need, Respond with empathy, Don't forget about vitamin D and Maintain a routine." For additional insight and detail around these tips, we've posted Rita's original blog below.
Best Practices for Successful Online Dating at Midlife and Beyond By blogOnline dating can be intimidating, especially for those of you who have been out of the dating game for a while. You may wonder if it’s safe, how comfortable you feel competing in such an open forum, how you will handle potential rejection, or how you will feel if you don’t any attention at all. All these concerns are valid. You no doubt feel more vulnerable than you did at 16. Here are my best practices for successful online dating. 1) Do keep it light
How to Love an Angry Man: Part 2 – Dealing with Anger vs. Rage By blogDear Dr. Jed, I’m worried about my husband. He’s angry all the time and blames me for everything that is wrong. He calls me names, yells at me, looks at me with such hatred, I want to disappear. He’s never hit me, but I’m afraid of him. He totally denies that there are any problems with him. When he gets mad he calls me a bitch and a lot worse and tells me I’m crazy and should be hospitalized.
5 Steps to Get Out of Your Rut By blogThe more I talk to women from all walks of life, the more I hear “I feel like I am stuck in a rut, spinning my wheels with no way to get out.” Too many women over 50 feel like they are driving aimlessly through life with no purpose or plan. Loneliness, depression and a sense of hopelessness take over, and instead of enjoying the freedoms of life after 50, they sink deeper into the quicksand of despair.
Finding Delight In The Seasons By blogI think we can all agree that the month of February was a discouraging combination of harsh winds, bitter cold and one storm after another. In general, I’m a happy, enthusiastic person, but on many days I found myself feeling blue. Life is too short to feel like this, but I couldn’t figure out a way to find delight during such bleak days. I then had a little conversation with Mother Nature. Here is what she said:
How to Love an Angry Man: Understanding and Helping Your Partner By blogWe all get angry at times. When we feel we’re threatened we react with anger. But we know people who get overly angry or their anger causes problems with their relationships at home or at work. I was one of those people. I wrote two books about how it impacted me and how I learned to help myself and my clients: The Irritable Male Syndrome: Understanding and Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression and Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from The Irritable Male Syndrome.
The Advantages of Being Disagreeable By blogI am presently reading Malcolm Gladwell’s thought-provoking new book, David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants. There are a number of interesting points in this book, but one section in particular struck me as true. As a young girl growing up in this culture, I was taught to be agreeable. Even though this went against my natural tendencies, I tried my best. Mr.
Exploring the Uplifting Effects of Aromatherapy By blogThink back to the last time you experienced a pleasant smell. Remember how it made you feel? For me the smell of fresh-cut grass puts my mind at ease and instantly relaxes me. The scent of lavender makes me less anxious and ready to fall asleep. I also love the smell of lemon — which reminds me of my mother's lemon pie and summer. These are just a few examples of how scents can have a powerful effect on the mind, influence your mood and lower anxiety.
Ho'oponopono: Housecleaning for the Soul By blogAfter practicing Ho'oponopono for almost 10 years, it's obvious to me that the Hawaiians have a wonderful tool for clearing the data so that we can hear that still, small voice within, whether we call it God, the Divine, or Nature. As you practice Ho'oponopono, you clear the data in your sub-conscious (Unihipili), which frees you to hear the path the Divine has waiting for you. The more you clear the lower self of its programming, the more your higher self (Aumakua) can guide your way.
The Secret of Life is One Thing: How to Be Successful at Love and Work By blogAfter spending his life helping people, the “father” of modern psychology and psychoanalysis made a simple observation: “Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.” Most of us recognize that when things are going well at home and at work our lives are joyful. If our love life or our work life is stressful, we suffer.
The Patience of Patients By blogWhen I was a resident, one of my attendings said, “You know why patients are called ‘patients’? It’s because they have a lot of patience. For us.”
Reducing the Stigma of Dementia Through Song By blogHaving older adults with Alzheimer’s and college students sing together can change younger choir members’ perceptions of dementia and reduce social isolation, both in those with the disease and their family caregivers. These are the findings of a pilot study conducted last spring at the John Carroll University in Ohio. (The study will be published in April 2014 in the American Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease and Other Dementias.)
How the Power of Words Helped Me Take Back Control By thirdAGE blogIn January 2013, I was diagnosed with stage IV invasive thymoma. Never heard of it? Don't feel bad; no one else I know has either. In fact, MD Anderson sees only about 25 cases a year. It's a rare cancer that starts in the thymus, a gland located in your chest between your lungs. It's pretty scary to have something so few people have experienced. I remember so clearly my doctor in Lubbock giving me my diagnosis and talking through the treatments.
Connecting With Your Inner Spirit Helps With A Cancer Diagnosis By blogResearchers have found that having a strong sense of spirituality helps people better adjust and cope with cancer. Spirituality provides a foundation of inner strength that can help people find hope, gratitude and keep a positive outlook in the midst of a cancer diagnosis.
Getting the Love You Want By blogWhat is the secret to attracting your soul mate and the loving relationship you yearn for? Really, it’s very simple. It all starts with you and loving yourself. Only when you truly love yourself can you be in a loving relationship. Here are my five tips to truly loving yourself so you can get the love you want. Distinguish between your wants and desires
The Myth of Mental Illness By blogA new Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders is due out next year and there is renewed discussion about what constitutes a “mental illness.” One of the world’s leading psychiatrists is questioning the very concept of mental illness. “In non-psychiatric circles mental illness all too often is considered to be whatever psychiatrists say it is,” Dr. Z tells us. “The need to re-examine the problem of mental illness is both timely and pressing.